Compare and Contrast

Ive been talking with a very wise woman of late and she asked me : what if we stopped comparing ourselves to others, or the people our society thinks we should be. Stopped worrying that we arent doing it right, or we do not have the same skills as others and are less worthy or important. Who would we be ?
Ourselves. Without all the fear and self judgement, and low self esteem. So why is it that we always compare ourselves to others?

It is important to get myself out of the paradigms of society and back into my own heart. Because that is where my truth is. And with out it I could never be at peace with myself.